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2021年，你们是不是也陆陆续续地刷到了相关的视频，视频里律师或相关专业人士给大伙儿普及“收彩礼现在是正儿八经地违法”“2021年彩礼可以不用给”等诸如此类的内容，评论区底下可谓是众说纷纭。

2021年，收彩礼难道真的算违法了吗？视频发布者说的收彩礼违法是否有依据？

有。

新运行的民法典中第1042条规定：“明令禁止借婚姻索取财物。禁止包办、买卖婚姻和其他干涉婚姻自由的行为；”

但仅从这此得出不允许收彩礼的结论，或许太过片面。

彩礼是中国沿袭至今的婚嫁习俗之一，男方家庭赠以彩礼，女方家庭回以嫁妆，初心是礼、是祝福，正如民间文艺家协会主席曹保民所说的：“彩礼首先是一种礼节，这些礼节并非由制度束缚，而是一种民间习俗。”彩礼本身不是陋习，给彩礼带上误解色彩的是那些极端高昂的彩礼、家长间的攀比以及落后习俗、婚姻交易行为的存在。“彩礼作为民间的礼节和民俗，可以予以保留，但千万不能过度，否则就会成为沉重的负担，从而失去了本意。”

例如：江西一男子在女方70万彩礼压力下砍死未婚妻

福建莆田百万新娘

女子张口120万彩礼

……

这些天价彩礼的案例不仅违背了彩礼“彩”“礼”的初心，还会扰乱社会秩序、滋生社会不良风气。这些极端的例子是社会危害，政府部门需要设立法律加以引导、对天价彩礼现象加以制止，社会上要营造对婚嫁合理认识、有序运行的氛围，我们作为新一代青年要摈弃不良风俗、承袭好的婚嫁习俗。

彩礼不仅仅作为婚嫁习俗、拥有美好的寓意，也是女方婚姻的保障、潜质的补偿。我们应该支持合理的彩礼，但对极端的天价彩礼要加以制止。现有法律中对彩礼的法律纠纷也有相关的规定：

1、 双方未办理结婚登记手续

2、 双方办理结婚登记手续但确未共同生活

3、 婚前给付并导致给付人生活困难的

社会巨轮向前发展，现象层出不穷，法律也应当逐步完善。对彩礼的认识、评价，我们允许有不同的声音。

英文译文：

In 2021, have you been watching relevant videos one after another, in which lawyers or relevant professionals tell people that "it is now strictly illegal to receive betrothal gifts", "it is not necessary to pay betrothal gifts in 2021" and so on. The comments section is full of different opinions.

Will receiving betrothal gifts really be illegal in 2021? Is there any basis for the video publishers claim that receiving bride price is illegal?

There is.

Article 1042 of the newly minted Civil Code states: "It is expressly forbidden to extort money or property through marriage. Marriages arranged for sale or other acts of interference with the freedom of marriage shall be prohibited."

But it may be too one-sided to conclude that bride price is not allowed only from this.

Bride price is one of the wedding customs in China. The bride price is given by the mans family and the dowry is returned by the womans family. The original intention is gift and blessing, just as Cao Baomin, chairman of the Folk Literature and Art Association, said, "Bride price is first of all a kind of etiquette, which is not bound by the system, but a folk custom." The bride price itself is not a bad custom. What makes it misunderstood is the extremely high price of bride price, the competition among parents and the existence of backward customs and marriage trading behavior. "As a civil courtesy and folk custom, bride price can be retained, but it must not be excessive, otherwise it will become a heavy burden and lose its original meaning."

For example, a man in Jiangxi Province hacked his fiancee to death under pressure from her 700,000-yuan bride price

1 million brides in Putian, Fujian Province

Bride price of 1.2 million yuan for womans mouth

......

These cases of high price bride price not only violate the original intention of "colorful" and "gift" of bride price, but also disturb social order and breed unhealthy social atmosphere. These extreme cases are social hazards. The government needs to set up laws to guide and put an end to the phenomenon of high bride price. The society needs to create an atmosphere of rational understanding and orderly operation of marriage.

Bride price is not only a marriage custom, with a beautiful implication, but also a guarantee of marriage, potential compensation. We should support reasonable bride price, but put an end to extreme and exorbitant bride price. There are also relevant provisions on legal disputes over bride price in the existing laws:

1. Both parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities

2. Both parties go through the marriage registration formalities but do not live together

3, pay before marriage and lead to the payers life difficulties

With the development of society, the law should be improved step by step. We allow different opinions on the understanding and evaluation of betrothal gifts.

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